Paul Cockayne - Relationship Counsellor

Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 – paulcockayne3@gmail.com
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I don’t work only with couples – I do a lot of work with individuals as well. It may be that you need help dealing with the break-up of a relationship, or that you are facing a difficult situation and need help in coming to the right decision on your own – for instance if you are having an affair.

Individual work can be very helpful in such situations, or for instance, if you want to change something specific to help your relationship better, maybe dealing with your anger better, or coping with your partner’s illness. But there are limits to the work – in many situations in relationships it is important for both of the couple to make changes to change the patterns and interactions between them.

As a counsellor I will make sure that we continually review the progress we are making in counselling to make sure that it continues to be useful to you. For example, it may be that initially a few sessions on your own are useful, before your partner joins the counselling. I believe in adopting a flexible approach to such situations, to adapt to make sure your needs as clients are best met.

Paul Cockayne – 07791 970406 – paul_cockayne@hotmail.com
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Sometimes all can seem lost. Counselling can be a difficult and challenging process – it is about change – sometimes about making quite fundamental changes in one’s beliefs – and that can be stressful.

Sometimes couples come to a point where it all seems too difficult, and they think about ending counselling and ending their relationship. Sometimes one of the couple finds that sitting in the counselling room is too difficult, and that they need to leave the session.

In my experience, this “darkest moment” does indeed “come before the dawn”. It seems that when we get to the nub of the problem, it is the most difficult time for one or both of the couple. But often I find that this is the moment of change. It may be that some serious thinking needs to be done, but often I find that this is the moment when the corner is turned, and the couple can start to build again, from the bottom up, and develop a new, and a better, relationship.